We all have times when it feels as if everything is on top of us. It might be business worries, or it might be a crying baby, sick or fighting children, a close relationship that doesn't seem as close and supportive anymore, the death of someone we love...these, and others, are all issues we have to deal with, sometimes all at once, and it is perfectly normal and acceptable to ask for help.
Identifying when you need help:
- Having a sense of not coping, not being in control of life, spending sleepless nights worrying, letting everyday tasks, and even personal care, slide;
- Feeling constantly tired, short-tempered, frustrated, angry;
- Losing a sense of humour and of enjoyment of life;
- Avoiding people.
- All the above feelings can make asking for help just seem like one more thing you should do, but can't find the energy;
- Pride and concern about what other people (partners, parents, children, colleagues, friends, the lady down the street) will think if they knew you weren't coping.;
- Guilt about not coping when "everyone else is managing their job/family/relationship/life";
- Concern about how much help might cost;
- Not knowing what help is available and where to find it;
- Being so overwhelmed that you can't even work out what would help.
Help can come in many forms:
- Practical, including childcare, household help, financial support, transport assistance
- Personal, including counselling, friendship and support groups, a listening ear
- Information, including the wide variety of services available to assist with particular difficulties,
- Professional, including medical and mental health services; early intervention services for children; legal assistance.
Asking for help and accepting help when it is offered can be difficult, but it is STRONG to ask and to accept it when it is offered. It is in fact, the first step to getting back on top of the situation that has been getting you down.
There are a great many resources available in our community. Doctors, Maternal and Child Health nurses, Community Services are all good starting points.
Lifeline: Phone 13 11 14
Maternal and Child Health Line (in Victoria, Australia) 13 22 29
Raising Children's Network General guide to services with information and links for all Australian states.